How often do we hear – or say out loud, “I’m an emotional eater.”
It’s unfortunate that what we’re really swallowing, along with our midnight binge and drive-through excursions is frustration, resentment, loneliness and a host of other undigested emotions. So if we are to stop eating ourselves alive every day, what do we do with the feast of feelings left over on our plate? That is the million dollar question.
Answering this is a very personal journey. Here are a few ideas as you enjoy the banquet of opportunities that life has in store for you (without turning it into an all-you-can-eat nightmare).
First of all, think of your new life (which begins right this second) as a party. You are celebrating a very special, secret birthday. So invite a few good friends. Be sure to choose wisely, because these guests are the people you will trust to support and encourage you through the tough stuff. No one can do this alone, and your closest friends will absolutely be your strongest allies as you learn to communicate your words instead of eating them. So talk, talk, talk things out until you are no longer in danger of stuffing your feelings down with food.
It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to. This is YOUR new life, and your emotions are good. No matter what you were told in your childhood or what your old tapes say to you, your feelings – whatever they are – are good. They aren’t right. They aren’t wrong. They are just feelings. Allowing and accepting them without judgment or self-righteous attachment will fill your heart in a way that food never will. So put your passion where your pen is, and if you need to, put your rage on the page! Write, blog, journal, graffiti on the wall – it doesn’t matter how you do it, but begin to prioritize pouring your heart out on paper. Your full pen and blank page just became your best friends. They will always have time and they will never say no. Your new motto is: Before you bite it, write it!
Run, play and dance all day. Remember that half an hour of fun physical activity isn’t just good for your body, it’s great for your mind! This is literally an antidote to depression and will naturally lift your mood and clear your head. So put some spring in your step and exercise your emotional demons right out of your life!
Putting these steps into your life isn’t the whole answer, of course, but it will get you moving in the right direction. Because, quite honestly, this is not a dress rehearsal, and eating yourself alive every day is just a mistake that you can no longer afford. Your new body and new spirit demand a new kind of food. A food for the soul. And that is more fulfilling than anything you could ever put in your mouth.
It means empowering your truth, and it means speaking your mind. It means leaning on friends so you can stand on your feet! It means celebrating YOU and YOUR LIFE and the choices you make every day. Beginning right now.
No matter where you’re at, start your life over right this second by saying:
“I am alive, and it feels GOOD!!!”
You CAN author a life and a body that you will love to live in every single day.
Laura Fenamore, CPCC, is a gifted Body Esteem and weight loss coach Laura is devoted to helping others find balance in their lives as well as celebrating their bodies and their health. Her vision is living in a world where health and body image are celebrated.